We Need Men`s "Ishews"

The end of Marriage has been in the Press all week and Ellee has got a super post up about it specifically on the fairness or otherwise of the current divorce laws. She is on my Blog Roll and I never miss a day , do visit

This was my comment in which I think I have discovered why men get treated so badly in this country

. It is obviously not going to be fair to have prenuptial agreements on an voluntary basis which will leave the husband, generally, in a lottery. Clearly divorce does not happen when the feelings that pertained to the marriage are still current so if there is a decision at that time it will, be sheer luck as to whether it was the right one
I `m not sure there are not two different subjects here . The end of marriage as predicted in the Press this week does not seem to have stopped all of my friends getting married .. It does stop young girls who are hoping to collect the maximum benefits and accommodation even admitting to a relationship.
This single piece of ham fisted benefits and welfarism must be responsible for about as much woe and misery as any ,and Frank Field foresaw all of this before he was ambushed by Gordon Brown and the old Left.
Higher up the income scale there is problem about an imbalance of power in the relationship that is inherently destabilising. The woman can at any time decide she has had enough of the marriage and , once there are children , walk off with an assured income and a family .The man will walk away ruined, with little prospect of restarting life, and separated from the children he , for the most part, will have centered his hopes around. It is no wonder that men are simply refusing to cooperate with this manifest injustice and are not paying the money due .If the courts actually enforced access it would help, but generally the woman eventually starts a new relationship and the children will become part of that supported by the law.
I saw David Cameron’s silly remark about stigmatising fathers, you have to treat fathers fairly for them to accept there is a guilt to be had and at the moment they are treated disgracefully in the divorce courts.

I put this favouring of women down to the strange quirk that women vote on women’s issue, whereas, men vote of national issues . Women are more likely to change their vote, and this voting pattern, has slowly turned men into beaten farm animals expected to work and sacrifice but sent down to the knackers yard like dear Old Boxer if it happens to suit the woman.